jAnY SG How do you let your platonic friend know that you want to be more den friend with him/her? Please give your suggestions hor.
IceIcE SG i think very difficult leh…..unless both also hint lor….if not one side express har then other side dont feel that then very embrasses liao
CloneMe72 SG More as in what? More rice? More soup? More ice-tea? When you reach the stage of asking more, there must be some sort of indication on both parties that propell you to the next stage. If not, or read wrong signs... relax and wait for the next opportunity. ------------------ Oh it won't rain all the time. The sky won't fall forever. And though the night seems long, your tears won't fall forever.
jAnY SG more den just being friends or colleagues lor wat if hint liao he/she still dun get it how? shd one hold on to this relationship and hope dat 1 day he/she will feel the same way or move on wid ur life and jus be friend?
Hershey SG Well i will drop hints and be extra nice to that person..maybe try to create more opportunites to be with him alone...when there is a chance i might even let him know i like him...and see how his reaction might be...cause if i dun tell, i would not know and may even loose a chance, but if i tell, at least i know what is the answer so i can judge whether to go on or wait for him.
IceIcE SG yar sure will be nice to that person such as if he date u out u will try to go every time not to disappoint him or trying sms him often to make him know u r thinking of him etc....but i wont tell him coz what if he dont feel what u r feeling and what if u got the wrong message from him....he is nice to everyone...then tell liao malu a bit diff to be ordinary fren as b4.... maybe when i am younger i will be so daring as to tell him how i feel but now old liao....so will hope that he will tell me first....i am still the conserverative type....like guys to do the asking and going after
BlueSky78 SG if both of you are really close frens, i believe tell him straight in the face would be the best method. and you will be able to know the answer rite away... whether he become ur bf or you n him remain as normal frens. it's very common nowsaday girl going after the guy she like so just be brave n tell him. good luck.
CloneMe72 SG No wonder... I donate 10% of my gut to IceIce cos she comes from the same village as me. In this day and age... when you seek for equality, you are still shy? ------------------ Oh it won't rain all the time. The sky won't fall forever. And though the night seems long, your tears won't fall forever.
jAnY SG sometimes, Gers are shy when it comes to things that are closer to the Heart. It is not easy for us to make known our feeling for the guy, coz the rejection might be too much to bear.
BlueSky78 SG it's natural for a girl to be shy. well... mayb you can use some indirect methods of telling him that u like him? probably you will feel less awkward or shy. nothing can be done unless you start doing.
Xavier SG That goes back to the initial question - How? The fear of rejection don't happen only to gals...
CloneMe72 SG It is not the how, it is the when. I think all of us knows how to express/declare our love to another. It is just when we will do it matter. - When you feel that without her/him, your life is not complete. - When you are out with your friends, you still think of her/him. - When the fear of losing her/him overcomes the fear of expressing your love. Life is short so... Ut ameris, ama! (To be loved, love!)
BlueSky78 SG my sentiments goes with CloneMe72. maybe it's really the question of when. but when "when" is stumble upon, "how" will come into play. how to do it will much depend on the scene and atmosphere, i'm sure you don't want to scare him away.(but from my experience, guys will feel flattered when a girl express her feelings to him. ) one thing to take note is don't rush into it, take time to understand each other, let him get to know you better(not on the physical level but more on the emotional and mental level). you will definitely see how he reacts and the feelings he has for you. i believe guys oso have sensitive side but perhaps just hard to realise hahaha~ (but sometimes guys oso need a knock on their head to wake their f**king blur mind... for idiots like me ) life is short thus live happy. nothing is impossible, you only say impossible when all possibles are tried. even so, is it really impossible? -BlueSky78
IceIcE SG yar equality but then we still gals mah shy mah wait ppl say this gal despo or hua ci very nan ting leh….and sometime the time is just not right to start a relationship…maybe both have been hurt b4 in love and still and ready to trust so they will try to let it be
IceIcE SG when talking and the word My Dear....came up is that consider one of the hints...to me i think it is as gd as saying wo de xiao jie..... what about bd kiss will any one offer bd kiss to a gal fren if he dont like her??? is that call hints too...
CloneMe72 SG A birthday kiss is to wish the receiver a happy birthday... everywhere on the face but the lips... nothing more nothing less. But a kiss anywhere on the face would indicate that you have a closer friendship to that person than others. I can give, it is the question of rather will it be accepted in kind.
Joylet SG paiseh ... today 1st time read THIS topic ... got 1 or 2 things to say lorr.... Clone: equality of the genders? I don't believe there is or there will be ... a birthday kiss?! gee ... call me "dao" or "conservative" or .... I don't accept kiss of any form from anyone NOT my bf. In fact, I USED TO don't hug/receive hug from friends of the same gender... until 1 day ... someone hugged me in front of so many IRC pple ... I no choice but got to accept lorr .. else she malu how? she will feel offended or sad lehhh (char bor mah ... u know lahhh). NOW, I still DON'T accept hug from GUY friends who is NOT my bf(not as if anyone would wanna hug me ... hahaha) back to question how to hint? errrmmmm I don't ... I just treat that someone nicer than others ... go out with him more often than others ... maybe that's considered hinting? ... well, my friend said he dropped hints at me ... I never got it ... until he told me the "magical words" then I know ... so .... just be direct lah hahaha ... save a lot of time u know?
jAnY SG after reading Joy's posting, I kinda agree with her leh equality? think man still wan to hv the upper hand in relationship... unless dat one is a "small white face" lah... :p char bo kish me i dun mind but receiving a kish from a guy who is not my papa, brother or bf... kind of weird leh.... wait my "xiao lu luan zhuang" how? I oso agree wif Joy that saying the "magic words" will be more direct and save time... instead of the merry chase and time wasted haiz.... mebbe we Aquarius are not so good at "hop'ping" hints har? we have to be told stra8 direct in the face
IceIcE SG direct is the best way to know how the other party feel...but u also must think of the consequence leh..like rejection. what if you say u like or love her/him then that person too shock dont know what to say..especially gals. if the guys say to them then they sure will be shock, lost for words right...then the guy may think she dont like him a form of rejection like that... no matter who say to who guy to gal or vise versa...the ultimate thing is we fear being rejected....and dont know how to sia tai liao. then next time go out also feel paisei so i still think best is hints first and must be very very obvious ones...and if that person dont siam then say the magic words n let him/her know
